You have to start asking yourself some important questions. You should ponder about how you have been using language on yourself, look at what you do to put you in a certain state and whats been going on in your head. This means you have to put yourself in a state of awareness. Once you observe and notice whats going on inside, you will learn to understand yourself and your feelings. You are then able to alter your thoughts which will affect your emotions and your behavior and attitudes.

You have to practice breaking your destructive thoughts and pictures. You need to listen and watch so that you will notice. When you notice them showing up, immediately interrupt. You interfere by asking some ridiculous questions, playing around and manipulating the pictures in your mind or changing the meaning that you have been accustomed to. Do this often enough and you will begin to alter your automatic state of mind and develop a different mindset.

You put yourself into a certain state of emotion when a particular memory or experience shows up. When you remember something pleasant, you will automatically put yourself in a resourceful mode. When some unpleasant pictures pop up in your mind, you react according to how you have learned to do without thinking. Why not recall more of the pleasant memories so that you can put yourself in a state that will inspire and motivate you to do and dare. Its all about choice.

How you feel in the moment has a lot to do with the pictures and dialogues going on endlessly in your head. Anything that has happened on your outside world has passed. What remains is your recollection. Most of them are repetitions of what you have seen, experienced and heard. Others are what you create. You can change and manipulate the pictures or the meanings because they exist inside where you have total control. You can do anything you wish with the pictures and the dialogs. Your ability to master this will enhance your life.